tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8743416867781673656.post5366467368230921642..comments2024-03-04T00:09:29.299-08:00Comments on Time in the Saddle: Relationships and HorsesLouisa Valentina;http://www.blogger.com/profile/03635679863212377114noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8743416867781673656.post-80835113324759487402013-09-23T21:54:23.856-07:002013-09-23T21:54:23.856-07:00That's so nice that you guys have found that, ...That's so nice that you guys have found that, I must say all of the comments on this post about now-happy relationships make me smile! It's also refreshing to hear you guys don't find, or need to really "work" on anything - I thought that was just a myth in relationships! ;)<br /><br />I totally agree with you, and tried to convey that in the message... I knew it wasn't going to last forever... especially under the circumstances.<br /><br />Brian is so, so right, and so are you - I love that statement haha, how, indeed, do they get through breakups? ... eating tubs of icecream, atleast horses allow you to burn some of that off ;)Louisa Valentina;https://www.blogger.com/profile/03635679863212377114noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8743416867781673656.post-15267119420149115762013-09-22T21:33:02.256-07:002013-09-22T21:33:02.256-07:00<3 This is incredible.<3 This is incredible. Brigittehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14655059710186043825noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8743416867781673656.post-58749180838259562452013-09-20T17:01:07.901-07:002013-09-20T17:01:07.901-07:00I think you are right in many respects, but I do h...I think you are right in many respects, but I do have to say I had a lot of mediocre relationships before I met my husband. Some of them I ducked out of, some of them I worked on but ultimately failed to save.<br /><br />But when I started dating Brian seven years ago, it was a totally different equation. We've never had to 'work' at our relationship. We've literally never fought. Committing to him was no problem because we just get along.<br /><br />Now that we're married though, and I know we've got a good thing, I would fight tooth and nail to keep what we have.<br /><br />But I wouldn't commit to the wrong person. No way.<br /><br />Some things are worth fighting for. Some aren't. And knowing the difference can be harder than one might think. :)<br /><br />Anyway, sorry about the breakup. As my husband said earlier today, "At least just touching your horse always make you feel better."<br /><br />I don't know how girls without horses get through breakups.Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05318359901770452986noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8743416867781673656.post-85992563745700811752013-09-18T23:11:39.747-07:002013-09-18T23:11:39.747-07:00so true Crystal, and sometimes it can be hard to l...so true Crystal, and sometimes it can be hard to listen haha. it's an ever-growing process.Louisa Valentina;https://www.blogger.com/profile/03635679863212377114noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8743416867781673656.post-8897603633695330522013-09-18T23:11:13.703-07:002013-09-18T23:11:13.703-07:00Glad you've found some happiness, and some &qu...Glad you've found some happiness, and some "stay", in your life :)Louisa Valentina;https://www.blogger.com/profile/03635679863212377114noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8743416867781673656.post-41929671812820235152013-09-18T23:10:53.137-07:002013-09-18T23:10:53.137-07:00this was a really nice comment Shirley :) congrats...this was a really nice comment Shirley :) congrats on 17 years - I can only imagine what the two of you have been through in that time - good, bad and inbetween. I like the fact that your relationship has in-turn taught you about horses, cool spin on my idea.Louisa Valentina;https://www.blogger.com/profile/03635679863212377114noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8743416867781673656.post-50280171258929139782013-09-18T22:20:38.487-07:002013-09-18T22:20:38.487-07:00Wow so much insight in here! It is hard in a rela...Wow so much insight in here! It is hard in a relationship to "fight" and deal with stuff. i used to be like that too but have learned its easier now in my marriage to say what needs saying and we are both happier afterwards. I too have learned many things from my horse and they are great teachers (when we listen)Crystalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18035210092855895218noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8743416867781673656.post-55571513552406806652013-09-18T08:03:20.018-07:002013-09-18T08:03:20.018-07:00Someday a person will come into your life and the ...Someday a person will come into your life and the relationship will "fit" like your relationship with Jingle, and not working on it when it gets tough will never even be an option for you.<br /><br />Trust me, I understand where you are coming from more than you will ever know. I was the Queen of "cut and run" when it came to relationships for a long time. Not now though. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15617546413512282387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8743416867781673656.post-47861088878121855982013-09-17T19:24:47.584-07:002013-09-17T19:24:47.584-07:00Horses are wonderful teachers! The reverse is tru...Horses are wonderful teachers! The reverse is true too; a good relationship that you work at can help you to work better with your horse. I've been married for 17 years, and knowing that it is a lifetime commitment has helped both of us to work on our relationship and to be loving and forgiving with each other- which in turn has helped me to be more thoughtful and compassionate with the quirks my horses have. Win/win! Shirleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15454110560303310751noreply@blogger.com